how to overcome food guilt

When’s the last time you felt guilty for eating something?

If your answer is “never,” I’m super proud of you. You clearly have your shit together, and I say that as a compliment. Since you don’t need this post, feel free to head over to my Etsy shop and buy lots and lots of gorgeous scarves for Christmas presents ;)

If your answer is more like “...last night...and don’t even talk to me about Thanksgiving because I’m freaking out,” this post is for you. Oh, and you are totally normal, so stop beating yourself up over beating yourself up!

I’m about to open up on a topic I’ve never really shared before, because to be honest I’ve still been working through it until recently. I’m usually an open book when it comes to my life and struggles on social media, but I’m also a follower of the Brene Brown school of vulnerability and sharing. (Her rule is that if you’re still in the middle of processing a story or personal issue, you shouldn’t openly share it with the world until you’re on the other side and can handle any potentially critical or judgemental feedback without taking it personally.)

Here’s the truth: Ever since high school I’ve struggled with a borderline negative emotional relationship with food.

I wouldn’t call it an actual eating disorder, just a mild obsession constantly in the back of my mind, especially at parties and social events.

It stems from my perfectionism and need to be in control, and is related to my issues with body image and self worth (which is another can of chickpeas I’ll save for a later post).

It feels like a constant awareness of what I’m eating and what I “should” eat, and feeling regretful or guilty when I can’t control my cravings or give into my emotions and eat mindlessly to fill the void left by low energy, or to numb my social anxiety at parties and events.

My personality is geared towards constant improvement and structure (INFJ-T) so I LOVE following nutrition and workout plans, and I’ve followed various “rules” over the years, like no carbs after 3pm, no bread, no processed food, no red meat (that one was the quickest to go!), drink only on the weekends, have a treat meal only once a week, etc etc. But whenever I broke a rule, I’d feel guilty and beat myself up, or feel compelled to “burn off the calories” with an extra workout or run.

Over the past couple months I’ve only noticed that my food relationship has finally started to improve. I eat whatever I want and rarely feel guilty when I do overindulge (hello, life!), and I finally view my workouts as ways to boost my energy and confidence instead of burn calories. I’m learning how to trust my body. This summer I stopped caring about tracking my food and started focusing on lifting weights and eating for strength and performance. Best. Decision. Ever.

And so I’m finally ready to come out of the closet and talk about emotional eating, because I KNOW this is an issue that almost all women struggle with at some point in their lives.

Plus the holidays are approaching, aka the most triggering season of the year for anyone who struggles with their food relationship, so if this is something you also struggle with I want you to know you're not alone.

Kodiak Cakes power protein pancake with almond butter, raspberries, and maple syrup.

For the past two years I’ve been posting on my health and fitness Instagram as part of the Tone It Up community, where it’s normal to share pictures of all your meals for the day, both as accountability and also to inspire other women to eat healthier too.

Something I’ve been noticing lately is how LITTLE some of the women I follow eat. Or how they’ll beat themselves up for eating “too much” or “slipping up” and then feel compelled to punish themselves with a restrictive detox or slim down.

I don’t usually post all my meals anymore, but i decided to take pictures of everything I ate on Tuesday just to see what a typical day really looks like for me. I eat a ton of food, relatively. It’s almost all healthy, but if I’m hungry I’m going to eat! I got a really big positive response to my “What I Eat in a Day” post, which made me realize how many other women are living trapped by these dumb rules, calorie restriction, and food shaming.

Where I’ve come from

Me in 2006!

In college I lost 20 pounds by running every day and cutting my calories by swapping processed food for lower calorie alternatives (mmm Lean Pockets), and for several years I was always paranoid about gaining the weight back. I was compulsively addicted to the scale and extra mindful of the food I put into my mouth, because I thought if I started to slip up or eat too much, BOOM I would be “fat” again.

Then I went through my quarter life crisis phase, which included several cross country moves, periods of unemployment mixed with temporary jobs, moving to Chicago (the first time I’ve lived in a big city), getting married. Needless to say, I was dealing with a LOT of anxiety and emotional overload, but I didn’t have the perspective to cut myself any slack.

I ended up joining the Tone It Up community in 2013 because although i knew how to eat healthy, I still wasn’t happy and knew I finally needed to do something about it.

The TIU meal plan taught me the importance of self love and eating REAL food, I met a lot of great friends, and still love the positivity and support of the community, but the nutrition plan wasn’t really clicking for me and I still knew I had inner issues to work on. That led to signing up as a Beachbody coach, as a way to hold myself accountable and do something for ME, as well as motivate and inspire other women by sharing my journey.

(Sidenote: This is why I laugh when someone wants to be a coach but uses excuses like “But I’m not at my own “after” yet! I’m still working on my journey...how will I be able to be a successful coach or inspire other people??” Oh honey. We teach what we most need to learn. You are most inspiring when you ARE in the middle of your own battles and can show other women “look, I’m here, I’m not perfect, but this is where I want to go and I’m not giving up.” And physical transformations are the tip of the iceberg.)

I tried the 21 Day Fix and it gave me a foundation of how to recognize proper portions of food and BALANCE so I could finally learn how to trust myself around food, and eat for energy instead of weight loss. I loved the structure, but eventually I did have to learn how to trust everything I learned and release the system in favor of more intuitive eating (although I definitely use the container system as a guide to make sure I'm getting the right balance of macro-nutrients!).

Since then my passion with discovering my best self and helping other women believe in themselves too has morphed into a full time career and my life purpose. Although I’ve been coaching other women to reach their own life and health goals for the past two years, I’m just now FINALLY feeling like I’m getting control of my own relationship with food and my body. This is one of my favorite parts of being part of the Beachbody community, you’re literally walking your journey alongside other people who are going through the exact same thing. You’re never alone.

Where am I now?

I've stopped tracking calories or portions but I'm eating to fuel my body, I'm doing more strength training than cardio, and I'm stronger than I've ever been.

I’m making my own food rules.

I eat healthy most of the time, because healthy food makes me feel good.

I love sugar, but it makes my tummy feel like crap so I avoid it when I can.

I’m letting go of perfectionism.

I don’t feel guilty if I over-do it at a party or wedding, but I’m over-doing it less and less as I learn how to manage my social anxiety and energy.

As an introvert, I’m learning how to take care of myself without resorting to food to fill the void when my energy is shot, or numb myself when I’m overwhelmed.

I take the latest fads and diets and plans with a grain of salt.

I believe in bio-individuality, which means that there's no one perfect way of eating. Since we’re all different, we’re all going to have different dietary needs and intolerances, so we have to be really careful with how we emotionally attach ourselves to messages and fad diets.

I don’t say no to the bread basket, because eating bread 3x/day in Holland this summer reminded me that bread is in my genes, and my body can handle it. Plus it makes me super happy.

I no longer compare my food choices to other girls I see on social media, or feel bad about myself if I eat more than them or don't workout as much.

I don’t need accountability to keep myself motivated, because I’m motivated from within.

I know that I do best under a “moderation” approach instead of all or nothing, so I listen to my body and allow myself treats and wine throughout the week instead of binging on the weekends.

How to Overcome Food Guilt

1. You need to give yourself patience, forgiveness, and time, and grace.

It has taken TWO YEARS of working on myself to get to this place where "healthy" is just my new normal instead of a wagon I keep falling off of.

I say this because if you’re also struggling with deep internal battles, it’s easy to beat yourself up for not seeing a “transformation” or visible changes, because we live in a society where instant gratification is expected.

2. Experiment with different ways of eating to figure out what feels best for YOUR body, but make it a science experiment, not a shame and guilt ridden deprivation battle!

3. Trust your body -- she's more resilient than you know. Your brain will try to make rules because it loves structure...but listen to how you FEEL.

We think of food, calories, weight, and fitness as external things we have to control, but really it all comes down to where you are on the inside.

4. Ask yourself: what are you dealing with internally? What’s the root cause of your eating issues? What are your triggers? Stream of consciousness journaling is a great way to siphon through the mental chatter and get to the root of your feelings, and so I include guided journal prompts in all my challenges.

(For me, it all comes down to things like feeling like I’m never good enough, the need to constantly improve myself, a lack of self-worth and self-trust, perfectionism, and having to seek validation from other people or from following a plan. My triggers are feeling low on energy or being in over-stimulating social environments.)

5. Find support! I wouldn’t have been able to get to this place alone. It’s easy for us to hide our “issues” or feel ashamed, but by sharing our struggles we heal ourselves and give other women permission to heal as well.

I’m here because of my coaching team, Inspire Joy, who show me everyday that I’m not alone. I’m here because of all my beautiful clients, who give me motivation to keep showing up because I’m not in this for myself anymore, I’m in it for them.

Email me if you just need someone to listen!

Start with the inside, and the outside changes will happen as a side effect. Throw your damn scale in the trash and start listening to your body.

I’m here because I made the decision to be happier and live up to my own potential. I show up everyday to treat my mind, body, AND spirit with as much love as I can.

I’m still learning.

I’m learning the more and more I learn to trust myself, the more those internal issues are fading away, and it trickles upward to an increased confidence and body image.

Give yourself the gift of grace, forgiveness, and patience, and remember that there’s no deadline to a healthy life, so don’t put pressure on your goals and dreams. Just keep showing up every day, do your best, forget the rest. You are already good enough.

xo Anna

p.s. Here are some of the books, blogs, and resources that have helped me with my food and body image journey!

BOOKS

BodyPEACE
Women Food and God
Make Your Own Rules Diet

PODCASTS

Your Kick-Ass Life
Love Pioneer

BLOG

The Real Life RD

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Disclaimer: I'm not a trained medical professional. All advice and views I share are my own personal opinion. If you feel like you struggle with an eating disorder, please reach out and seek help! You're worth it, and you deserve it.
 

an insider's guide to a live Beachbody event (The Platinum Edge 2015 recap!)

This past weekend I flew to Dallas for a training conference hosted by my coaching team.

I know. You're probably thinking "work trip? yawn," but let me tell you that when you're a Beachbody coach, boring, stuffy, awkward work trips are a thing of the past. They're replaced with epic adventures that turn your dreams into reality, introduce you to people who instantly feel like long-lost family, evaporate all your petty self doubts, fears, and insecurities, and make you feel capable of taking over the world.

So yeah.

This was another one of those trips where you know that your life has shifted or aligned (in a good way!), but you’re still not quite sure how the shift is going to work itself out...so I’m going to try to give myself time to marinate and reflect.

I'm buzzing full of ideas, inspiration, and grand schemes and plans for my team and business, but I know that I'm not going to be able to calm down and focus until I process all my feels with a long and rambly blog post.

So here we are.

This weekend was a big full-circle moment for me because it was the second time I’ve attended this particular conference, The Platinum Edge. Last year it was my first official live Beachbody event. I bought the ticket while I was still working full time and had only been coaching a few months. I had absolutely no idea what to expect and joked around with my old co-workers about going to a "fitness cult convention," but  I was blown open and filled with so much energy I wouldn’t shut up for weeks afterward (sorry Ben!).

You see, last year’s trip to Dallas ended up being one of the major turning points in my journey, the moment I truly knew I had found my purpose in life and realized exactly WHAT I was getting myself into with Team Beachbody and the bigger picture of what we do as coaches. I know that I'm going to continuously evolve, but I know for certain that I’m meant to share my story and help other women work towards becoming their best selves, and that Beachbody is the platform for me to make that happen.

If you want to see how far I’ve come in the past year, you can read my 2014 The Platinum Edge recap here. (Warning: extreme passion ahead…you may be inspired to take action on your dreams...you’ve been warned).

This year felt different because I have a year’s worth of perspective and experience, so I was able to relax and enjoy the trip a little more! I was mainly excited to get the chance to hang out with the seven coaches from my own team who joined me :)

We hadn’t all been together since our trip to Nashville in July for Coach Summit (the huge conference open to the entire Beachbody network), and I was also meeting one of my coaches in person for the very first time!

The power of social media to connect you with other women who share your exact same values, dreams, Meyers-Briggs personality (INFJ baby), and goals in life is pretty ridiculous, and I love explaining to people how I met my friends on Instagram. It’s kind of like love at first sight, or online dating for friends...you KNOW you’re meant to be together. You don’t have to spend time building a relationship because you already share so many similarities so you can immediately connect on an incredibly deep level.

My coach Sharayah lives in the Dallas area (this city confuses me so much, it’s like a vast sprawl of highways and sub-cities that are more satellites than suburbs), so I flew in Thursday to spend the night at her place.

We went straight from the airport to TJMaxx and Target for some shopping (priorities!) and then went into Dallas for dinner at HGSplyCo with one of her coaches, Shamira!

We split a delicious veggie and ginger hummus plate complete with bacon chips, then I ate an equally delicious Tex Mex bowl with pulled pork.

Sharayah and I stayed up way too late talking and hanging out, then got up early for a jog around the lake in her neighborhood. It was a perfect morning!

We spent Friday morning driving around the metropolis running errands and picking up food and supplies for the weekend, because apparently spending two nights in a resort means you need to be prepared for an Arctic expedition.

Then we finally made it to the Gaylord Resort to check in and meet up with the rest of our teammates before the conference sessions kicked off Friday afternoon!

Um, can we just talk about the Gaylord Texan for a sec? This place is crazy. It's like an indoor Texas-sized Christmas snowglobe.

Friday night Hannah, Katie and I grabbed cocktails at one of the resort bars (the Paloma is officially my new fave cocktail I discovered in Cabo!), then our bigger team hosted a pajama party...yup these are my people, and we crashed pretty early.

(There were 50 people in the hotel suite...my girls and I immeidately found our "introvert corner" hahaha).

Saturday was an early morning live TurboKick workout, and then a full day of sessions!

When you become a coach, you instantly become part of a network of teams, sort of like nested umbrellas or a big family tree. The team that I started is called Inspire Joy and we have about 140 coaches right now (as of November 2015), but we’re part of a larger team called ShredNation, which is then part of a massive team called Platinum Presenters. Platinum Presenters holds roughly ⅓ of all Team Beachbody coaches (there are approx 380,000 coaches in the entire network right now), and The Platinum Edge is our main event of the year. Still with me?

The great thing about a multi-level marketing business structure (which is NOT a pyramid scheme) is that everyone's on an equal playing field, no matter when you sign up. There's no ceiling or limit on the income you can earn or the success you can create for yourself, and so there’s no feeling of competition among Beachbody coaches. Our personal success only elevates the success of the entire network, so there’s a big culture of mentorship, sharing, training, teaching, duplication, and professional as well as personal development.

As my mentor Chelsea put it, "I felt like we were one big family and it was this feeling of, "I love what I do. You love it too? Here's what I do. Let's change the world together."

We got to hear from some of the top leaders in the network and basically hear their insider secrets to how they grew their businesses! Including Chelsea sharing her social media ninja strategies :)

Needless to say we were all pretty physically, emotionally and mentally drained by the end, so we gave ourselves an hour of “introvert downtime” to unwind before heading out to Sweet Tomatoes for an Inspire Joy dinner!

(My happy place!)

This was a surreal moment for me. Sweet Tomatoes is one of my favorite restaurants, and going there with a group of women (who also all love endless salads, baked goods, soft serve, and taking personality and Spirit Animal quizzes) who I didn’t even know 2 years ago was so much fun. Being able to find each other over the powers of the internet is kind of a miracle. This is how I feel whenever I meet a new client or future coach….like OMG another sister?? Where have you been all my life?

After eating way too many veggies, muffins, and soft serve, we went back to the resort and crashed early again.

Sunday we got up early for another live workout, PiYo with Chalene herself! This was the third time I’ve had the privilege of doing a PiYo class with Chalene and it’s pretty much my definition of happiness and joy.

The at-home version of PiYo is good, but it just doesn’t compare to the real deal, and I’ve been throwing around the idea of becoming PiYo certified ever since last year because it just feels too good not to share. Too many life goals...

After we finished sculpting our buns of steel, we went through our shower and Shakeology rotation and headed back for one last round of sessions to close out the conference! Sunday was probably my favorite day.

Chalene presented on using Periscope, and James Wedmore did an amazing YouTube training.

Sharing more videos is something that’s been on my mind a lot lately (and I LOVE learning and listening to presentations), so I was in my element!

I’ve officially started a (super awkward) channel on Periscope and am going to broadcast a video every single day, trial by fire style...feel free to download the app and follow me (annamarialocke)!

If there’s one thing I’ll say about Chalene, it’s that she is incredibly motivating and will get you to take action on pretty much anything, regardless of how terrified you are.

After the conference ended, I had a few hours before I had to catch my flight back to Chicago so I ended up just chilling and hanging out with three of my coaches who didn’t have to leave right away either. This was maybe my favorite moment of the whole trip, just chatting and decompressing, encouraging and inspiring each other to get after our plans and big ideas.

This fall I can tell I’ve been entering a new phase of my life and business, but I haven't been able to quite put my finger on what's changing. I’m letting go of a lot of my old fears and self doubts, and also facing a lot of resistance and insecurities in that process of release.

I do know that I’m exactly where I’m meant to be, and that big things are in store. I’m finally learning to be at peace with being a beginner, and not pressuring myself to instantly succeed (or beating myself up for moving slower than I think I “should” be).

I know for certain that the only thing holding me back is myself...but I’m not alone and I’m learning how to accept and receive help and support!

You aren’t alone either.

As coaches, we work for ourselves and it’s easy to feel alone when you’re stuck behind a screen, but when we have a chance to come together in real life it’s the most powerful experience.

(With the lady who sucked me into this madness, my gorgeous friend and coach Deidre! I can't believe I was so skeptical at first...it took me about 3 months of obsessive research to pull the trigger on coaching, can you believe it?)

Think about your secret dream or passion. I know you have one! You might not have ever share it with anyone because you’re afraid of sounding stupid or unrealistic...but think of that “too good to be true” vision for your life.

Now imagine being in a ballroom with 1000 people who not only share a similar version of that vision, but who are actively working on making it come true.

Are you with me?

Yup, it’s pretty powerful.

I wouldn’t say I feel unstoppable now, but I do feel completely aligned, confident, and supported with where I’m at and where I’m going.

Becoming a coach sounds scary, until you just do it and realize that it’s not a big leap at all.

It’s simply a small step into the person you were meant to be all along, and our team is here to welcome you with open arms (and maybe a crazy workout or Paloma).

xo Anna

You can learn more about coaching with Inspire Joy here! If you have any questions, please send me an email! There’s no such thing as a stupid question. I love sharing my experiences as a coach and would love to hear your story too :)

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the best personal development books for beginners

Over the last 18 months, I've become quite a personal development junkie.

To be totally honest, I never really knew what "personal development" was before I became a Beachbody coach. Discovering personal development and self-help books was kind of like discovering blogging for me: a WHOLE NEW WORLD opened up that I didn't even know existed.

I never really thought of myself as someone who needed self-help...because we're all supposed to have our shit together, right? But it's changed my life more than anything else, and is the number one secret to how I've had the confidence to quit my job, chase my dreams, and show up every day to build a coaching business.

Why personal development is important

Let's face it. We aren't born to be 100% confident, energetic, and instant masters at what we do. We know we have to take care of our physical bodies by eating right, working out, getting sleep, etc etc but we don't really talk about how we need to take care of our mental and emotional selves. 

The more you learn about yourself, the more you'll be able to understand your quirks, strengths, and capacity for dealing with life, and it's so important to work on our mindset every single day!Have you ever felt like you're stuck, spinning your wheels, in a life rut? It's probably because you haven't been challenging yourself on the inside. If you don't put work into your emotional and spiritual growth, you're going to stay stuck.

Whenever you're going through change in life, whether that's losing weight, starting a new job or relationship, or moving to a new city, it's important to grow and evolve on the INSIDE. If we don't match our inner growth with our external growth, we're never going to feel satisfied with our accomplishments or like we're "good enough." 

You can only go as far as you grow. Your success in life will always be limited by your confidence, skills, and level of self-awareness.

Personal development is heavily encouraged in the Beachbody world, but I think it's important for everyone, regardless of what you want out of life!

Putting myself on a mental/emotional "diet" of personal development books and podcasts over the past 18 months has helped me deal with my perfectionism, anxiety, and low self esteem. I'm still a work in progress but I've learned so much, and helping other women get to know themselves is now my purpose in life.

The more I share about my own journey and inner transformation, the more people have been asking me about my PD book recommendations, so I'm finally going to start sharing more reviews and suggestions on the blog.

Today I'm sharing the five books I started out with that had the greatest impact on my life!

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My top 5 book recommendations for personal development newbies!

PUSH by Chalene Johnson

This was the very first personal development book I read after becoming a coach! It’s not revolutionary, but it will probably change your life.

What I learned from PUSH

• That wanting more from my life isn’t wrong.
• That I have the power to control my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.
• How to set priorities so I know I’m spending my time on what matters most instead of drowning in overwhelm.
• That I need to stop playing victim and reacting to life, and take ownership and control.
• How to turn dreams into goals, and then how to develop the confidence to make them happen!
• Basically, PUSH set the foundation for my entire philosophy and coaching business.

Quotable quotes:

“You don’t need another diet. You need a simplified way to organize your life...a way of living and eating that gives you joy.”

“Balance is possible only when you know how the scales should be set for you.”

“A fit foundation will give you confidence, assurance, and the self-love you need to stop looking outside yourself for acceptance.”

“Happiness is knowing who you are, what you want, and how you want it. Happiness is knowing you are doing the right things for yourself and the right people.”

The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte

I read this book alongside PUSH and I think they complement each other really well, especially if you’re a right brain/left brain combo person like me.

PUSH is about taking the reins and getting shit done. The Desire Map is about leaning back and letting your values and core desired feelings take the lead.

It’s about a creative, soulful approach to success and goal setting.

Whenever you start freaking yourself out or feeling overwhelmed and intimidate by your own plans and goals, The Desire Map is like a sigh of relief that will remind you you’re already good enough, and exactly where you need to be.

This book is half inspiration, and half workbook that will guide you to discover your own Core Desired Feelings, and then help you create a plan to manifest those feelings in all areas of life.

What I learned from The Desire Map:

• That it’s ok to be a creative, super sensitive, emotional person.
• That it’s ok to struggle with impolenting routines or systems. Sometimes we don’t NEED systems, we can simply trust ourselves and our intuition.

Quotable quotes:

“Wanting more for your future is not a betrayal of your present or past.”

“Awareness is realizing that our life could always be better. Growth is doing what it takes to make it better.”

“When you respect the darkness within yourself without any guilt trips, you’re becoming truly free.”

“Goals can perpetuate overplanning, and overplanning kills magic and possibilities.”

“You can ease up on yourself without shrinking your dreams.”

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

The title of this book says it all.

It’s the first book I read that I felt SPOKE directly to me when I was going through my first spiritual crisis/awakening in the spring of 2014.

Brene is a writer and research professor who specializes in topics like shame, perfectionism, vulnerability, and authenticity.

What I learned from The Gifts of Imperfection

Brene has helped me learn how to accept myself for who I am, and encouraged me to share my dreams, my story, my ideas, my vision.

This book has also directly shaped and impacted my personal mission and coaching business.

Quotable Quotes:

“Courage is telling our story, not being immune to criticism. Stayiing vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection”

“People may call what happens at midlife “a crisis,” but it’s not. It’s an unraveling--a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live, not the one you’re “supposed” to live...when you are challenged by the universe to let go of who you think you are supposed to be and to embrace who you are.”

“It’s our fear of the unknown and our fear of being wrong that create most of our conflict and anxiety”

“If we want to make meaning, we need to make art. As long as we’re creating, we’re cultivating meaning.”

“By merely letting go of the list of things we want to accomplish and acquire, we would be actually living our dream -- not striving to make it happen in the future, but living it right now.”

“God lives within us, not above us. Sharing our gifts and talents with the world is the most powerful source of connection with God.”

52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life by Andrea Owen

Oh Andrea Owen, I love you.

This no-BS life coach speaks to women just like us, who battle perfectionism, low self-esteem, and over-achieving. I recommend it to my new coaches and clients because it's not preachy or "self-helpy," so it's a great starter into personal development.

What I learned from 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life

I love this book because it’s divided into 52 bite size mini-chapters, basically a collection of power-packed essays on topics such as taking responsibility, uncovering your personal values, listen to your gut, have more fun, loving yourself, managing yoru inner critic, and ditching your drama addiction and control freak.

She encourages me to keep going after what I want, with no apologies, regrets, or over-analyzing.

Andrea is teaching me how to love myself.

Her podcast is also amazing!

Quotable Quotes:

“It’s not your circumstances that are making you feel a certain way--it’s your thoughts about them. And believe it or not, you’re choosing to keep those thoughts in your life”

“The thing about life, and about personal development, is that sometimes it can seem to get pretty damn serious. Don’t let al that seriousness and hard work bog you down.”

“Confidence is about believing in yourself. Self-esteem is about believing in your worth. Self-love is both of those wrapped up into one, plus more.”

“You are worth what you want.”

“There are several layers to self-confidence and courage, and one of them is the notion of just taking action.”

“Your goals, aspirations, and to-do list shouldn’t feel stressful or destined for failure...Take back your power.”

“Life balance is a crock of shit.”

The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

Can you tell I favor female personal development authors? Sometimes you have to throw some masculine energy into the mix, and The Slight Edge is a MUST-READ for anyone.

This book is about how we can turn simple daily actions and behaviors into long-term success. It's all about starting where you are, with what you already know. In a world that tells us to expect instant results, it can be really discouraging and frustrating to work towards a big dream or goal that will take patience and time, and it’s easy to get derailed from our vision. I love this book because it reassures us that it’s not about big massive leaps...it’s about the little things we can do to keep us moving forward.

What I learned from The Slight Edge

The Slight Edge taught me how to re-frame my own definition of “success” and gave me a lot of confidence.

Quoteable Quotes

“You alrady know how to do eveyrthing it would take to make you an outrageous success. All you have to do is keep doing the things that have gotten you this far.”

“Successful people fail their way to the top.”

“Work expands to fill the time available for its completion”

“Success is a process, not a destination. It’s something you experience gradually, over time.”

“Courage means to have a purpose and to have heart.”

“Happiness isn’t some big thing you pursue, not something you chase after. It’s something you do.”

“Great success often starts from a tiny beginning-but there has to be a beginning. You have to start somewhere. You have to do something.”

“Leadership is not something you do; it is something that grows organically out of the natural rhythm of learning.”

“You have to start with a plan, but the plan you start with will not be the plan that gets you there.”

“Don’t try to figure it all out. If you want twice the success, double your rate of failure. You start with a plan, then go through the process of continuous learning through both study and doing, adjusting all the time like a rocket ship on the way to the moon, of track 97 percent of the time.”

“Your income will never long exceed your own level of personal development.”

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A few tips on reading personal development

If you’re anything like me (which you probably are if you’re reading my blog), you’ll be tempted to binge on personal development, but it’s important not to let your “all or nothing” mindset take over.

A good goal that will keep you moving forward at a steady pace is to read one PD book a month. That will give you motivation to actually finish reading it, and you’ll also have enough time to absorb and process what you’re reading.

Sometimes I check PD books out of the library, but I prefer to buy them because I treat them like a workbook. You want to be able to highlight, underline, scribble notes and breakthroughs in the margins, and constantly be asking yourself "how can I apply this?"

I also love going back and re-reading my favorite books, because you’ll get something new out of them as your life evolves and changes. It’s fun to go back and see my previous notes and take-aways, and how I’ve been able to implement them into my life (or not!)

I hope this post was helpful to you. I'd love to hear your updates or your own book recommendations -- shoot me an email if you have anything to ask, add, or suggest!

xo Anna

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