Earlier this summer I shared a blog post on the two basic fears that pop up for all entrepreneurs as we start to launch ourselves and our work... but I never told you how to actually get over yourself. Until now! :)
Anytime we go out of our comfort zone or navigate a new life transition, we make ourselves emotionally vulnerable and that opens up a lot of fear.
One of the main fears that my clients (and I) struggle with is the fear of judgment.
“What will people think?”
The only way to truly overcome a fear is to move through it with action and prove to yourself that it holds no power over you.
But sometimes we need to build up our courage and confidence first and this is where a little self coaching comes in.
Today I'm sharing a quick and powerful tool for immediately diffusing fear of judgment or overly caring what other people think.
This will make you uncomfortable. It’s safe to get uncomfortable, in fact it’s the only way to grow and evolve as a human.
But first - the backstory of why this topic is so personal to me!!
This picture was taken last Thursday. I was riding in the car with my friends Amanda and Anna, on our way to Indianapolis for Beachbody Coach Summit, blasting Disney tunes and singing at the top of our lungs.
What do you see?
Three girls on a road trip having fun, right?
Well, that’s pretty much the truth, but a picture is worth a thousand words and captured in this image I see so many things I used to hold fear of judgment around:
-being part of a network marketing company
-singing out loud in front of other people
-reaching out to strangers on Instagram and inviting them into my business
-opening my heart and making new friends as an adult
-being my quirky spazzy emotional introverted self
If I had let my fears stop me, I wouldn’t be here today: 5 years into my business, 9 months into a healthy active pregnancy, about to be able to stay at home with my baby and still earn income online, able to travel all over anytime I want to attend personal development and leadership events with inspiring people, part of a community of positive and ambitious women who support me and share my vision..
I think it’s completely normal to care about what other people think of you, because humans are pretty judge-y. Plus going through a major life transition or launching an authentic, heart centered business is the ultimate act in vulnerability and it IS going to feel uncomfortable. So get used to it babe! It’s all part of the game. Not a sign that something is wrong.
What IS wrong is if you let your fear of what other people will think hold you back from living true to your heart (per the Mulan song) and making life decisions on your own terms.
Ready to get out of your own way? Here is what I do:
How to diffuse fear of judgment in 10 minutes or less
Take out a pen and paper and make a list of names: who SPECIFICALLY are you afraid is going to judge you?
If it’s random strangers on the internet: let them go! You don’t even know them.
If it’s family or friends:
What specifically do you think they judging you for?
Does their opinion matter?
Does their judgment change what you believe in, or the mission you’re sharing with your business?
Maybe you’ll realize there is no one at all, and you’re actually only judging yourself because you don't really believe in yourself yet, in which case it's time to get clear on your mission and purpose!
Self awareness is the biggest step you can take in getting out of your own way.
The world needs you to show up and shine!